The most important thing in life is to know that there are
people who love you. We all need to feel loved by people for us to feel good
about ourselves, but the problem is to know who truly loves us and separate
them from who actually don’t.
There are a number of reasons why people
will stick by you , unfortunately they are not all good reasons. Here are some
wrong reasons:-
You have what they want for them to be comfortable
No one wants to hang around a loser so most people would say.
So if you are a winner, the greater chances are that you are going to be
surrounded by people, you will have so many friends. Sometimes it could be that
you have a bit of money, maybe it could be that you’ve got brains, I mean you
are smart but there’s got to be something that is pulling the crowd.
Don’t chase the crowd
away you need it to feel good but you need to identify the people that can
stick by you when all is said and done.
They have a problem that you can fix for them
We all face challenges at one time or
the other so we help each other solve problem. But there are some people who
just come around when they have an issue to be sorted out in their lives and
after that they just disappear, take note of these so you will
not be very disappointed the next time they disappear.
They have hidden inadequacies
Some may hang around because your
presence in their lives sort of covers their inadequacies for example if they
are not smart and you are smart everyone will look and talk about you not them
or any other short comings that you can think of. Try as much as possible
to be more inspirational than critical.
They just want a relationship
This one is crucial. We all know that some times when a man
and women meet they sometimes leave important issues and start discussing issues
surrounding relationships and you can easily guess where all that stuff is
headed to.
It’s no mystery that a man will
get attracted to a woman and vice versa. I think it’s natural. It’s all a quest
for love, and different kind if you ask me.
The fact that someone approaches
you for a relationship does not automatically mean they love you. They might
want the relationship for their personal gain, but don’t deny yourself an opportunity
to love, just be careful.
HOW TO KNOW IF THEY LOVE YOU
Here are some ideas that can help you to
know those that love you:-
Concern for your progress as a person: - People who love you want you to progress in your life.
They sometimes criticize you, sometimes encourage you and sometimes get mad
over your lack of seriousness in life. If someone is jealous of your making it,
then put their names on the list of your friends on the left. This should not
be for a short period but while they are with you. They concentrate on your strengths: - People who love you know your
weaknesses and they get mad and they know your strengths and that’s their focus. They don’t
crucify you for your weakness rather they patiently encourage and advice you. By the way people hate to know the
wrong side of others, if they stick with you, it’s something. They don’t bring you down: - People who love you never look
down on you or make you feel low. They make you believe in yourself and make
you feel you can make it; you are beautiful, handsome or smart. It is very
difficulty for someone who loves to compete with you. They empathize with you: -People who love you know what
makes laugh and what makes you cry, so they feel your pains and share your
happiness. These are the people that love you. They are selfless when it comes to you: - People who love you sacrifice for
your sake, sometimes their time, money or even happiness for you. They are the
people who are hurt most by your recklessness.
Hope you’ve
learnt something from this post. Next post I will be sharing on “THE FOUR WAYS
WE LOVE”. Please comment if you like this one.
No comments:
Post a Comment